To raise resilient kids, combine 2 popular parenting styles, says child psychologist: Here’s how

When it comes to raising kids, some parents feel like they need to commit to one ethos.

If you’re a gentle or responsive parent, you validate your child’s emotions and de-emphasize consequences. If you’re an authoritative parent, you set hard boundaries and focus on following set rules.

In reality, parenting works best if you mix styles, says Mona Delahooke, child psychologist and author of “Brain-Body Parenting: How to Stop Managing Behavior and Start Raising Joyful, Resilient Kids.”

“The hype around parenting styles has taken us away from the more relevant question: ‘What does my child need at this moment?’” Delahooke says.