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Child Discipline: Time to Shift the Lens

The Monitor on Psychology’s October 2019 article, “Teaming Up to Change Child Discipline” described how parenting advice such as “spare the rod and spoil the child” is now debunked and outdated. This is an important shift, considering that 60% of children aged 3-4 in the US are spanked by their parents. In regards to the […]

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How Teachers Can Take A More Compassionate Approach to Behaviors

Jalene’s teachers were at a loss about how to deal with the fourth grader’s habit of dashing wildly through the halls of her public school. Her IEP team made an effort, devising a behavior plan that called for teachers to reprimand her for the behavior, remove her from the classroom, or even force her to […]

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Do Time-Outs Work? It’s Time to Reframe the Question

Are time-outs an effective strategy for parents to cope with children’s challenging behaviors? Before I studied early childhood development, I occasionally used time-outs with my own children because they were touted as an effective and appropriate discipline technique. Decades later, a debate is raging about whether or not this is true. A recent Time article tried […]

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Are Baby-Soothing Gizmos a Good Parenting Choice?

Years ago, as a sleep-deprived mother of a colicky baby, I once felt so desperate after trying every imaginable way to soothe my crying infant that I finally placed her in her car seat atop the washing machine, holding her in place with one hand as the washer rumbled below. After a few minutes of […]

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Top-Down and Bottom-Up Behaviors: Understanding the Critical Difference

Did you know that there are (at least) 2 different kinds of behaviors? Most people don’t. I didn’t, even after years of college, training, and earning a Ph.D. in clinical psychology. Most graduate programs in mental health, education, social work, and medicine don’t yet consider this dichotomy important enough to teach or train about. But […]

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Why We Misunderstand Behaviors in Autistic Children— And How We Can Get It Right

An Indiana school recently made headlines after one of its special education teachers presented an autistic fifth grader with an award for “Most Annoying Male” at a school ceremony. While the incident was unfortunate in many ways, perhaps most disturbing was how it revealed that even people who work closely with such children can utterly […]

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The Two Life-Changing Qualities That Make Teachers Extraordinary

In my job as a clinical psychologist and as a mother, I have repeatedly observed two qualities in extraordinary teachers: * They provide a warm, calming presence and regulate their own emotions. * They are relationally connected and engaged with their students. It’s not difficult to see what a difference a good teacher can make. […]

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Childhood Trauma: Understanding Behavioral Challenges as Survival Instincts

This is a blog post I never wanted to write. In light of the tidal wave of neuroscience research, I had hoped that by now the fields of education, mental health and juvenile justice would change the way they view and support children and teens exposed to trauma. That hasn’t happened yet. And while I’m […]

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How To Cut Stress in Kids’ Transitions from School to Summer

The end of the school year can ban bring both fun and challenge for both parents and children. Some parents find it easy to transition their children to beloved and familiar settings such as local summer programs, day camp, or sleep-away camp.  But others experience stress and scramble to find appropriate options for their children […]

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Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.19 hours ago
Amy Laurent, thank you. THIS is essential information. We are in a new era of understanding autism, but our practices are in the dark when they focus on behavioral management and compliance. Listen to the voices of autistic individuals and join a growing group of us who who believe these practices must change. #neurodiversity #autism #specialeducation #shifttheparadigm #flipthenarrative #relationshipsfirst
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Letting Go of Control and Rethinking Support for Autistic Individuals | Amy Laurent | TEDxURI
Instead of trying to control the behaviors of individuals with autism to make them indistinguishable from the general public, Amy Laurent, PhD, OTR/L suggest...
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Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.1 day ago
Unfortunately, many of our treatment strategies for vulnerable children involve punitive measures which only serve to reinforce a pattern of toxic stress. Punishment of behaviors can increase stress responses and behavior challenges, not decrease them. That's why we need a shift in our thinking. #ACES #BeyondBehaviors #toxicstress #Childwelfare #Neurodiversity #ODD #FASD #traumainformedcare
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.3 days ago
This was a fun article to weigh in--Question was: Why are toddler brothers Fighting so much!? Answer: Is it fighting or is it play? #childdevelopment #positiveparenting
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Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.5 days ago
If your child has severe behavioral challenges or you work with children who do, please share this post so that we can reform practices of seclusion and restraint. Thanks Alliance Against Seclusion and Restraint for publishing this guest post. #endseclusion #beyondbehaviors #togetherstrong #ACES #traumaresponsive #ODD #specialed #neurodiversity

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