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The Two Life-Changing Qualities That Make Teachers Extraordinary

In my job as a clinical psychologist and as a mother, I have repeatedly observed two qualities in extraordinary teachers: * They provide a warm, calming presence and regulate their own emotions. * They are relationally connected and engaged with their students. It’s not difficult to see what a difference a good teacher can make. […]

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Childhood Trauma: Understanding Behavioral Challenges as Survival Instincts

This is a blog post I never wanted to write. In light of the tidal wave of neuroscience research, I had hoped that by now the fields of education, mental health and juvenile justice would change the way they view and support children and teens exposed to trauma. That hasn’t happened yet. And while I’m […]

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How To Cut Stress in Kids’ Transitions from School to Summer

The end of the school year can ban bring both fun and challenge for both parents and children. Some parents find it easy to transition their children to beloved and familiar settings such as local summer programs, day camp, or sleep-away camp.  But others experience stress and scramble to find appropriate options for their children […]

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Why Being a Happy Mom (or Dad) is a Gift to Our Children

Mother’s Day always transports me back to my days as a young mom, juggling my psychology practice with the activities of our household: three young children, a wonderful husband, and a rambunctious dog named Lacy. With all three girls active on their soccer teams and their dad serving as coach, we sometimes needed a spreadsheet […]

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When a Child Cries, Ignore the “Experts,” Not the Tears

Every parent knows how difficult it can be to watch your child burst into tears. Your instinct is to do whatever you can to bring comfort and calm the child. But in my work as a child psychologist, I sometimes observe behavioral interventionists suggest a different reaction for the children they work with, including those […]

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Why We Misunderstand Traumatized Children’s Behavioral Challenges and How We Can Do Better

By the time he turned eleven, “Luke” had consistently displayed such challenging behavior that he had been kicked out of four foster homes. Finally, a social worker placed him with parents who had been trained in a program that focused on behavior management.  That placement was also unsuccessful, and he landed in a residential school […]

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Moving Beyond Autism Awareness and Acceptance

According to the Autistic Self Advocacy Network (ASAN), “autism acceptance” shouldn’t be limited to a specific day or month. Rather, it should be an ongoing, collective effort to  create a world that values, includes, and celebrates all kinds of minds. As a child psychologist who has worked for decades with families of children on the […]

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Can Rewards and Consequences Make Kids’ Behavior Challenges Worse?

“Martina,” a 7-year-old in a mixed inclusion classroom, wanted to let her teacher know that she was feeling anxious,  so she tried to connect with her, repeatedly grabbing at her arm and shirt. The teacher had been trained to ignore “negative” behaviors, so the more Martina grabbed, the less attention she gave her. Her strategy […]

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Challenging Behaviors: Why We Shouldn’t Expect Kids to Self-Regulate Too Soon

Five-year-old Nathan was excited about a family outing to the zoo, but his mother worried he would not be able to control his behavior. So she explained her carefully devised plan. She had ten gummy bear candies with her. If Nathan behaved well, she would give him all ten at the end of the visit. […]

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Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.3 hours ago
Oh my Goodness!! 1000 reviews! I’m so overwhelmed and GRATEFUL for this Facebook community and everyone who has supported this book. THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart for sharing your stories with me, writing reviews & sharing the book and most of all for YOUR support for this PARADIGM shift that is swimming upstream and challenging systems.🙏🏼❣️
And thank you to my amazing editor Tom Fields-Meyer, Karsyn Morse with the incredible team PESI
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.3 hours ago
Highlight of my weekend! Enjoyed a walk with my grandbuddy who is so excited for Halloween she had to test out the costume early!

#Grandbuddy #Halloween #PreciousMoments
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.3 days ago
Friends, this is kind of the moment we've been waiting for--some sort of evidence that the paradigm shift proposed in Beyond Behaviors is making a difference in medicine or education. Yesterday, I found out about a powerful and supportive book review in the Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, one of the biggest in the field. It's behind a paywall, but here's what gives me hope that this approach may be reaching psychiatrists and the medical system. Thank you again for your support, your encouragement and for sharing the book, it is making a difference, and here's a bit of proof (and the encouragement we all need).

..."our sense is that mid-to-late career attendings
might use this book for a developmental theory
update, helping to understand perspectives that have
emerged over the last 10 to 20 years, including polyvagal
theory and embracing the concept of neurodiversity. Above all, this is a book about dignity, helping children and adults to maintain theirs by seeing beyond superficial labels (“bad,” “explosive,” or “disruptive”) in favor of deeper, organized analysis" #Beyondbehaviors #childpsychiatry #childpsychology #ODD #FASD #attachmentdisorders #brainbodyparenting Psychotherapy Networker
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.6 days ago
The secret's out! Friends, due to the overwhelming support for Beyond Behaviors, we've created a Beyond Behaviors FLIPCHART, a tool that you can use as a parent, teacher or therapist to explain the basic principles of the Beyond Behaviors approach. I will be using it in IEPs, therapy sessions, parent-teacher meetings, and in study groups. It contains the key points of the book, with some new wording and graphics, and it has a laminated side that you can use to fill in and re-use as a way to track a child's stress responses & individual differences. I'm SO excited to see what you think! It just went up for Pre-sale and I'll be doing a Live soon once I get my copy! And I've ordered extra copies to give out on December 7th, so sign up to my email list,to be in the drawing for a free Flipchart. Here's the link. https://monadelahooke.us3.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=79b4b11bfb6fdbfd46b6c15b8&id=e9e6abb593 #Beyondbehaviors #BeyondbehaviorsFlipChart #paradigmshift
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.1 week ago
Halloween is right around the corner. 🎃 While your kids might be looking forward to the candy, you have an opportunity to see the workings of their imagination and inner life!

In my recent blog, I share how to nurture your child’s creativity, reduce stress and check in with them emotionally. Have fun!

#Halloween #Costumes #Imagination #BrainBodyParenting #BeyondBehaviors #Parenting
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.1 week ago
I’m overwhelmed with gratitude every time a new translation of Beyond Behaviors comes out. To all of you who have recommended, written reviews, shared about the book and the paradigm shift-- it’s because of you & it belongs to you! 🙏🏼We now have Spanish, German, Polish, UK English, Mandarin, with Turkish and Ukrainian coming! Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

#BeyondBehaviors #NewTranslation #paradigmshift #education #earlyintervention #childwelfare