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Considering these Popular Parenting Techniques? Proceed with Caution

As anyone who has ever struggled to manage a toddler’s meltdown in a busy supermarket line can attest, parenting can be both confusing and humbling. To make matters worse, seeking out advice from so-called experts can often lead to even more confusion since their wisdom can be contradictory and bewildering. So it’s worth a quick […]

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It’s Time to Do Away with Seclusion and Isolation Rooms and Replace them with Compassion

Recently, a 13-year-old autistic student died after staff members at his Northern California school physically restrained him for an extended period. And the parents of a non-speaking, autistic 12-year-old  have sued his school for placing him in a seclusion room after a behavioral outburst. Teachers forced the child to strip naked before they placed him in a […]

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He’s Having a Meltdown! Four Possible Triggers—and How to React

In a prior post, I suggested that we should appreciate meltdowns for what they are: a child’s subconscious (unintentional) way of signaling that he needs something from the adults around him—or from his environment.  When a child experiences a meltdown or tantrum or acts aggressively, he is communicating that he has exceeded his ability control his […]

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How Anger, Tantrums, and Meltdowns Protect Your Child

Anger, meltdowns, and tantrums get a bad rap. As parents, we worry that these behaviors indicate that our child is choosing to misbehave or that we’re somehow failing as parents. The judgmental stares and glances we get from onlookers only increases those insecure thoughts. We read books about what to do and try to tame […]

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What to Know Before We Teach Children Self-Regulation Skills

What’s the best way to teach children how to regulate their own emotions and behavior? Occupational therapist and educator Leah Kuypers devised one approach, The Zones of Regulation, which has gained international popularity. “The Zones” is a groundbreaking cognitive-behavioral approach that helps adults teach children about self-regulation, which includes self-discipline, emotional control, anger management, and […]

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Parents Know Best: Why the Educational System should Stop Marginalizing Parents

*Updated September 2021 It’s past midnight and “Amanda”can’t fall asleep. She’s focused on her meeting the next morning at the school where her son is struggling in a program not suited to his unique needs. As she mentally rehearses her appeal for better support for him, she’s also bracing herself for the response she expects: […]

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Children’s Mental Health: Everyone’s Responsibility

Amelia’s parents contacted me because of a problem in Kindergarten. Her teachers reported that she often began to cry around lunchtime, and when they asked her why she was crying, she couldn’t answer them.  They tried to distract her, and even offered her a trip to the class “store”, (stocked with fun prizes) if she would […]

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The Developmental Iceberg: Looking Below the Surface of Challenging Behaviors

Behavioral challenges are the “tip” of the iceberg, and the answers to helping children are often found below the surface of behaviors. Take Ben, for example, who was a puzzle to his parents and teachers alike. In kindergarten, he struggled to stay in his seat, and his teachers constantly reprimanded him for not complying with […]

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When Children Act Out: “Seeking Negative Attention” or Needing to be Seen?

Decades ago, when I was in graduate school studying child psychology, I was taught that children often do things to get “negative attention.” At my clinical training sites, it was common to hear things such as, “Oh, Johnny is creating drama to seek negative attention” and “The best strategy is to ignore him.” When I […]

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Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.6 hours ago
Oh my Goodness!! 1000 reviews! I’m so overwhelmed and GRATEFUL for this Facebook community and everyone who has supported this book. THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart for sharing your stories with me, writing reviews & sharing the book and most of all for YOUR support for this PARADIGM shift that is swimming upstream and challenging systems.🙏🏼❣️
And thank you to my amazing editor Tom Fields-Meyer, Karsyn Morse with the incredible team PESI
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.6 hours ago
Highlight of my weekend! Enjoyed a walk with my grandbuddy who is so excited for Halloween she had to test out the costume early!

#Grandbuddy #Halloween #PreciousMoments
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.3 days ago
Friends, this is kind of the moment we've been waiting for--some sort of evidence that the paradigm shift proposed in Beyond Behaviors is making a difference in medicine or education. Yesterday, I found out about a powerful and supportive book review in the Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, one of the biggest in the field. It's behind a paywall, but here's what gives me hope that this approach may be reaching psychiatrists and the medical system. Thank you again for your support, your encouragement and for sharing the book, it is making a difference, and here's a bit of proof (and the encouragement we all need).

..."our sense is that mid-to-late career attendings
might use this book for a developmental theory
update, helping to understand perspectives that have
emerged over the last 10 to 20 years, including polyvagal
theory and embracing the concept of neurodiversity. Above all, this is a book about dignity, helping children and adults to maintain theirs by seeing beyond superficial labels (“bad,” “explosive,” or “disruptive”) in favor of deeper, organized analysis" #Beyondbehaviors #childpsychiatry #childpsychology #ODD #FASD #attachmentdisorders #brainbodyparenting Psychotherapy Networker
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.6 days ago
The secret's out! Friends, due to the overwhelming support for Beyond Behaviors, we've created a Beyond Behaviors FLIPCHART, a tool that you can use as a parent, teacher or therapist to explain the basic principles of the Beyond Behaviors approach. I will be using it in IEPs, therapy sessions, parent-teacher meetings, and in study groups. It contains the key points of the book, with some new wording and graphics, and it has a laminated side that you can use to fill in and re-use as a way to track a child's stress responses & individual differences. I'm SO excited to see what you think! It just went up for Pre-sale and I'll be doing a Live soon once I get my copy! And I've ordered extra copies to give out on December 7th, so sign up to my email list,to be in the drawing for a free Flipchart. Here's the link. https://monadelahooke.us3.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=79b4b11bfb6fdbfd46b6c15b8&id=e9e6abb593 #Beyondbehaviors #BeyondbehaviorsFlipChart #paradigmshift
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.1 week ago
Halloween is right around the corner. 🎃 While your kids might be looking forward to the candy, you have an opportunity to see the workings of their imagination and inner life!

In my recent blog, I share how to nurture your child’s creativity, reduce stress and check in with them emotionally. Have fun!

#Halloween #Costumes #Imagination #BrainBodyParenting #BeyondBehaviors #Parenting
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.1 week ago
I’m overwhelmed with gratitude every time a new translation of Beyond Behaviors comes out. To all of you who have recommended, written reviews, shared about the book and the paradigm shift-- it’s because of you & it belongs to you! 🙏🏼We now have Spanish, German, Polish, UK English, Mandarin, with Turkish and Ukrainian coming! Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

#BeyondBehaviors #NewTranslation #paradigmshift #education #earlyintervention #childwelfare