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What Makes an Education “Appropriate”? Building It on Relationships

Every IEP team should assure that a child has the chance to develop emotional regulation through trusting relationships. Without that opportunity, meaningful learning is impossible.

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Reducing Children’s Stress (and Yours!) During the Holidays

It’s supposed to be a time of joyful excitement, but the truth is that the holiday season can be stressful for children and parents alike.

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Lessons from Spin Class: The Limitations of Encouragement

Are we doing children a disservice by insisting on mind over matter? Some food for thought on how to tailor encouragement to suit each child's unique needs.

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A Nurturing Alternative to Calm-Down and Time-Out Rooms

Rose’s parents and teachers were concerned about how to help her find success in kindergarten. Sometimes she went with the flow but at other times Rose fussed so much that she disrupted the whole class. Then her teachers devised a plan that everyone thought would help. They designated a small, separate section of the classroom […]

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What Causes Oppositional Defiance and Challenging Behaviors?

We can shift our mindset from viewing ODD as manipulative behavior to seeing it as an indicator that the child’s physiological state has shifted to distress, leading to fight or flight behaviors.

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Oppositional Defiance or Faulty Neuroception? Part 2

Oppositional defiant disorder (ODD) should be viewed as a child's response to stressors. Porges' concept of neuroception is key in supporting children and creating treatment plans to help them find their way back to emotional regulation.

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Oppositional Defiance or Faulty Neuroception?

Oppositional defiant disorder (ODD) should be viewed as a child’s response to stress. Viewing challenging behaviors on a continuum of stress and stress recovery reveals a whole new way to think about this stigmatizing disorder, as well as a new way to support children, informed by current neuroscience.

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The Top Priority When your Child is Diagnosed with Developmental Differences

We want to shift away from viewing developmental differences as something that needs to be quickly “fixed”. Rather, we need to soften the stance to view differences with patience and compassion; with reflection regarding what behaviors or capacities should be targeted for change, and why

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Self-Reg: Busting the Myth of Self-Control

A new book, Self-Reg, explodes the myth that if only children tried harder or had enough willpower, they could control all of their challenging behaviors. The reality is much more complicated than that.

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Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.1 hour ago
Dear Friends, THANK YOU for your support! Yesterday was a wild Amazon ride, as the book sold out immediately! Anyway, Amazon figured it out and you should receive copies very soon. GRATITIDE to PESI & to Tom Fields-Meyer, my editor, AND mostly, ALL OF YOU for your interest not only in the book, but the cause. I can't wait to hear what you think! Mona ❤️
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.1 day ago
It's Publication day!

I'm so excited to be sharing an approach to reduce suffering for children and teens who are so often misunderstood.

My heartfelt gratitude to all of you who helped me write this book by offering advice and sharing your stories. A special thank you to my incredible editor Tom Fields-Meyer, and colleagues, Tina Payne Bryson, Katie Hurley, LCSW Dona Matthews Joanne Foster Megan Stilwill Mim Ochsenbein Nicole Schwarz, Imperfect Families Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff, Ph.D. Profectum Laura Markham Serena Wieder & Dr. Stephen Porges, and too many others who have been so supportive!
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.2 days ago
Tomorrow is Launch Day!
I wrote the book because I've witnessed too much suffering resulting from our outdated approaches for our most behaviorally challenged children. Together we can create a paradigm shift away from shame and blame and towards an appreciation for neurodevelopment & compassion.
❤️ Thank you for all your support for this project over the past year!
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.1 week ago
Amidst the popular focus on self-regulation among professionals, educators and parents, too often we miss a significant point: we cannot really "teach" a child to self-regulate. #neurodevelopment #challengingbehaviors #resilience #childwelfare #beyondbehaviors #selfregulation #selfcompassion #ACES
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.1 week ago
We had a wonderful conference put on by the Profectum Foundation this past weekend. We learned how PLAY heals trauma and supports children's development. So much fun seeing treasured colleagues from around the globe! Special thanks to Kendra Delahooke MFT, my daughter & colleague who snapped photos & joined the DIR community & to PESI Publishing -- rushed copies to the conference where I had my first book signing! Launch in one week! #shiftingparadigms #childwelfare #neurodiversity #Beyondbehaviors
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.2 weeks ago
Great day at the Profectum Conference in San Marino, Ca. Here's the FB live feed of my closing words about the power of Play. #playbased #DIR #Beyondbehaviors #Preschoolsuspensions #resilience #childwelfare #fostercare
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.