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What We Can Learn from a Seven-Year-Old’s Arrest

A Florida elementary school made national headlines after video emerged of a police officer hauling off a seven-year-old boy in handcuffs. According to reports, a teacher had scolded the child for playing with his food in the cafeteria and the boy reacted by lashing out at the teacher, repeatedly striking and kicking her. By the […]

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Freedom of Choice: Why Special Education Programs Should be Transparent About their Approaches

When parents enroll their children in a school, they often don’t realize they’re choosing not only a program, but a whole approach. I was reminded of this when I was asked to observe a little girl at a state-sponsored preschool for children with developmental differences. “Ana”, 3, was happily playing when she noticed that a […]

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Why Preschoolers Shouldn’t be Suspended or Expelled: Lessons from Neuroscience

Luke struggled to get through nearly every day at his preschool. The four-year-old had difficulty sitting still and following directions, and when teachers reprimanded him, he usually responded by hitting something or someone. The more they admonished him, the more disruptive his behaviors became. Finally, the school ran out of options and suspended him. His […]

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How Experiencing Joy Can Help Children and Promote Optimal Development

Joy is a powerful tool for solving childhood challenges and promoting brain health. Yet in our culture of doing, teaching, treating and pathologizing, too often we forget that when a child needs help, the first thing we should increase is joy.  This is certainly true in my own field, child psychology, in which we often […]

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The Secret to Helping Children Thrive (And It’s Not a Theory or a Technique)

Revised May 10, 2021. I visited a kindergarten classroom to observe “Byron”, a child with behavior problems. When I arrived, the little boy was busying himself with an art project. He and his classmates were building towers out of cardboard box pieces. Everything seemed fine until a peer suddenly grabbed the glue from him, knocking […]

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The Essential Question to Ask Before You Discipline a Toddler

Susan was enjoying a weekend breakfast with her family when her three-year-old son, “Marcus”, suddenly hit his big sister. When Susan reached out to pick him up, Marcus abruptly threw his head back, knocking Susan in the mouth so hard that she bled. Susan was stunned, at once furious and confused. Why did her son […]

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A New Lens for Understanding Behavior Problems

Six-year-old “Yvonne” was an only child and the apple of her parents’ eyes. After she was diagnosed with developmental differences, they enrolled her in a preschool class that included typical children as well as those with special needs. She did so well that the following year she moved to a mainstream kindergarten class. Just a […]

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Parenting: When Being Consistent Backfires

As a psychologist, I frequently hear the same complaint from frustrated parents.  We have made every effort to be consistent in disciplining our child, they say, but our child’s problematic behaviors won’t go away. In other words, what should you do when consistency fails? Consider “Maya”, who as a toddler was pegged as a “spirited” […]

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Sensory Processing and Challenging Behaviors: Below the Iceberg

Grant, age four, was asked to leave two preschools because of misbehavior. With tousled brown hair, big brown eyes, and a playful spirit, he both charmed and confused most of the adults in his life. He had such difficulty following directions that his teachers had to reprimand him every few minutes. They described him as […]

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Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.3 days ago
Friends, this is kind of the moment we've been waiting for--some sort of evidence that the paradigm shift proposed in Beyond Behaviors is making a difference in medicine or education. Yesterday, I found out about a powerful and supportive book review in the Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, one of the biggest in the field. It's behind a paywall, but here's what gives me hope that this approach may be reaching psychiatrists and the medical system. Thank you again for your support, your encouragement and for sharing the book, it is making a difference, and here's a bit of proof (and the encouragement we all need).

..."our sense is that mid-to-late career attendings
might use this book for a developmental theory
update, helping to understand perspectives that have
emerged over the last 10 to 20 years, including polyvagal
theory and embracing the concept of neurodiversity. Above all, this is a book about dignity, helping children and adults to maintain theirs by seeing beyond superficial labels (“bad,” “explosive,” or “disruptive”) in favor of deeper, organized analysis" #Beyondbehaviors #childpsychiatry #childpsychology #ODD #FASD #attachmentdisorders #brainbodyparenting Psychotherapy Networker
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.6 days ago
The secret's out! Friends, due to the overwhelming support for Beyond Behaviors, we've created a Beyond Behaviors FLIPCHART, a tool that you can use as a parent, teacher or therapist to explain the basic principles of the Beyond Behaviors approach. I will be using it in IEPs, therapy sessions, parent-teacher meetings, and in study groups. It contains the key points of the book, with some new wording and graphics, and it has a laminated side that you can use to fill in and re-use as a way to track a child's stress responses & individual differences. I'm SO excited to see what you think! It just went up for Pre-sale and I'll be doing a Live soon once I get my copy! And I've ordered extra copies to give out on December 7th, so sign up to my email list,to be in the drawing for a free Flipchart. Here's the link. https://monadelahooke.us3.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=79b4b11bfb6fdbfd46b6c15b8&id=e9e6abb593 #Beyondbehaviors #BeyondbehaviorsFlipChart #paradigmshift
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.7 days ago
Halloween is right around the corner. 🎃 While your kids might be looking forward to the candy, you have an opportunity to see the workings of their imagination and inner life!

In my recent blog, I share how to nurture your child’s creativity, reduce stress and check in with them emotionally. Have fun!

#Halloween #Costumes #Imagination #BrainBodyParenting #BeyondBehaviors #Parenting
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.1 week ago
I’m overwhelmed with gratitude every time a new translation of Beyond Behaviors comes out. To all of you who have recommended, written reviews, shared about the book and the paradigm shift-- it’s because of you & it belongs to you! 🙏🏼We now have Spanish, German, Polish, UK English, Mandarin, with Turkish and Ukrainian coming! Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

#BeyondBehaviors #NewTranslation #paradigmshift #education #earlyintervention #childwelfare
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.1 week ago
What a memorable conversation with Janet Lansbury, one of my favorite parenting heroes, so grateful she had me on her podcast! 🙏🏼❣️
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.1 week ago
Often called something that sounds nurturing like a calm -down room, these rooms are most often used for behavioral management. Alliance Against Seclusion and Restraint