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When Children Act Out: “Seeking Negative Attention” or Needing to be Seen?

Decades ago, when I was in graduate school studying child psychology, I was taught that children often do things to get “negative attention.” At my clinical training sites, it was common to hear things such as, “Oh, Johnny is creating drama to seek negative attention” and “The best strategy is to ignore him.” When I […]

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The Power of Hope from Childhood Professionals

Several years ago at a professional training I conducted on parental stress, an 80-year-old mother raised her hand to share an insight. A psychologist and mother, she explained that she had a 50-year-old son with special needs. “Everyone told us to institutionalize him,” she said, “that he would be functioning at the lowest levels, and […]

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How We Help Children When We Practice Mindful Acceptance

Recently I experienced a difficult moment with a young client—and gained some insight in the process. In the midst of a session in my office, something triggered the 8-year-old boy into a “red zone” and he suddenly burst out yelling and screaming. His mother and I had seen this happen before, and we typically reacted […]

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The Body Tells the Story: The Promise of Sense Technology in Supporting Vulnerable Children

Improving the well-being of children and families is a priority for Dr. Rosalind Picard, a professor at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology who studies “affective computing,” which uses sense technology to increase individuals’well-being using new ways to understand and respond to emotion. Dr. Picard has developed wearable sensors that reveal an individual’s level of cognitive, emotional, […]

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ADHD or a Natural Need to Move?

Rodney came from a family of athletes, so it wasn’t surprising that he was physically active from the time he was a toddler. Tall and strong, he crawled for just a couple of days before he learned to walk, and, soon after, run. Rodney thrived at his preschool, where children could freely move between the […]

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When Sensory Over-Reactivity Underlies Behavioral Challenges

Grant, age four, was asked to leave two preschools because of misbehavior. With tousled brown hair, big brown eyes, and a playful spirit, he both charmed and confused most of the adults in his life. He had such difficulty following directions that his teachers had to reprimand him every few minutes. They described him as […]

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It’s Not Just What You Say But How You Say It: How Early-Intervention Professionals Can Support Parents

Sitting on my office couch, Shawna let out a sigh. “We need help,” she said, barely getting the words out before she began to cry. Her face was gaunt and she had dark circles under her eyes. Over the next hour, she explained what had led her to seek my help. Shawna and her husband […]

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The Expectation Gap: When Do Toddlers Have Control Over their Behaviors?

Toddlers are wildly and wonderfully unpredictable. One minute, your little girl might be happily conversing with you, and the next, she’s out of control, rolling on the floor in agony because she can’t have that cupcake she just spotted on a TV commercial.  For parents, this seemingly unpredictable lack of emotional control can be exasperating […]

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When Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACES) Underlie Problem Behaviors

Four-year-old Wyatt was struggling in preschool, suddenly defying directions, and demanding more attention than usual. Nap time became a particular challenge. He would slither on the floor, trying to avoid his cot, in the process disturbing others trying to sleep. Frustrated, his teachers would ask him to stop bothering others, giving him few minutes to […]

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Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.1 hour ago
Dear Friends, THANK YOU for your support! Yesterday was a wild Amazon ride, as the book sold out immediately! Anyway, Amazon figured it out and you should receive copies very soon. GRATITIDE to PESI & to Tom Fields-Meyer, my editor, AND mostly, ALL OF YOU for your interest not only in the book, but the cause. I can't wait to hear what you think! Mona ❤️
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.1 day ago
It's Publication day!

I'm so excited to be sharing an approach to reduce suffering for children and teens who are so often misunderstood.

My heartfelt gratitude to all of you who helped me write this book by offering advice and sharing your stories. A special thank you to my incredible editor Tom Fields-Meyer, and colleagues, Tina Payne Bryson, Katie Hurley, LCSW Dona Matthews Joanne Foster Megan Stilwill Mim Ochsenbein Nicole Schwarz, Imperfect Families Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff, Ph.D. Profectum Laura Markham Serena Wieder & Dr. Stephen Porges, and too many others who have been so supportive!
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.2 days ago
Tomorrow is Launch Day!
I wrote the book because I've witnessed too much suffering resulting from our outdated approaches for our most behaviorally challenged children. Together we can create a paradigm shift away from shame and blame and towards an appreciation for neurodevelopment & compassion.
❤️ Thank you for all your support for this project over the past year!
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.1 week ago
Amidst the popular focus on self-regulation among professionals, educators and parents, too often we miss a significant point: we cannot really "teach" a child to self-regulate. #neurodevelopment #challengingbehaviors #resilience #childwelfare #beyondbehaviors #selfregulation #selfcompassion #ACES
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.1 week ago
We had a wonderful conference put on by the Profectum Foundation this past weekend. We learned how PLAY heals trauma and supports children's development. So much fun seeing treasured colleagues from around the globe! Special thanks to Kendra Delahooke MFT, my daughter & colleague who snapped photos & joined the DIR community & to PESI Publishing -- rushed copies to the conference where I had my first book signing! Launch in one week! #shiftingparadigms #childwelfare #neurodiversity #Beyondbehaviors
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.2 weeks ago
Great day at the Profectum Conference in San Marino, Ca. Here's the FB live feed of my closing words about the power of Play. #playbased #DIR #Beyondbehaviors #Preschoolsuspensions #resilience #childwelfare #fostercare
Mona Delahooke, Ph.D.